November 18, 2019

When it comes to the idea of trauma, most of us think of the familiar "fight or flight" response and we certainly hear about that concept and read about it frequently. But is that always the case? Do we really only have two options--fight back or run away? For example,...

July 23, 2019

So what are we to make of these kids who don't exactly march to the same drummer as the others? What do you think? Perhaps we can read the following description of one form of creativity--storytelling-- from the late John Gardner, the famous creative writing teacher?...

May 15, 2019

You bring your sullen god-king for

"Self-esteem counseling,"

as if that's something that we

can infuse into him by

some therapeutic shamanism

and I notice the desperate hope

in your eyes that when he leaves

my couch

he'll strut out that door

with his head held high,

feeling good...

March 5, 2019

It's true--real men don't need therapy because guys don't really like therapy. That's because we only have two feelings to deal with: hungry and angry so what could possibly go wrong?

In a sense, it's much easier being a guy due to the limited range of emotion we usuall...

December 21, 2018

A difficult topic to discuss by any stretch of the imagination but a discussion which takes place regularly in the office, while I work with young men and not so young men who have carried a stressful, shameful secret for years, in some cases decades.

As clinicians, man...

October 19, 2018

I look at your yellow rotted teeth

trying to ignore the pungency of

ammonia and sweat as I watch

your broken soul peek out from

behind your dark encircled eyes.

Life's abandoned marionette

with all your strings cut,

jerking around on my couch as

you tap your uncoordinated feet


October 8, 2018

Have you checked your email today? How many times? How many video games have you played? You watch any YouTube today? Is the TV on right now along with streaming or maybe Netflix, Hulu or Roku? Or heaven forbid, you're binging on CNN or Fox News, filling your head with...

July 14, 2018

So who are the Lost Boys? 

They are boys "who fall out of their prams when the nurse is looking the other way and if they are not claimed in seven days, they are sent far away to the Neverland" where Peter Pan is their captain . There are no "lost girls" because, as Pet...

May 17, 2018

My wife asked me to do

the Honey-Do list, which

I will do--of course--

and that includes cleaning

the garage, watering the plant

(as I killed the others) and

running the dishwasher.

Definitely going to...once I figure

out how best to position

myself on the roof to watch

the sola...

March 23, 2018

     A catchy little title for a growing problem for many adults in their 50's and beyond who find that they still have their adult children living with them, for varying reasons. We know that currently, one third of adults in the US between 18-34 still live with their...

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